Most of my posts tend to be more straight forward about a product, outfit, accessory, etc…But, I wanted to try something a little different. I’m going to talk REAL, TRUE mom Life. There is this misconception of Moms who blog (and really blogging in general) and I wanted to take a moment to share what life is really like…Life behind the squares if you will.
I have to say it use to be a little more difficult because I was a full-time ICU nurse, I blog full time + I am a wife and mother. I am not longer working in the ICU, but have added my makeup business, as well as working part time as a nurse injector. I’m asked all the time how I keep up with it all, and naturally my first response is “coffee, lots and lots of coffee.” Which, let’s be honest, is true, but I also have a few tricks to help me manage it all.
Mom Life is HARD. The other night I was getting the girls ready for bed and I told Aria we needed to brush her hair. I kid you not, she had a FULL ON MELTDOWN, we’re talking stomping, kicking, screaming and crying…and I hadn’t even started yet! We’ve struggled with her hair a lot because it keeps getting in these crazy knots. She literally cried the entire time. Meanwhile, Amelia was crazy tired and naturally she started crying and rolling all over the place trying to kick Aria and I off the couch. It was pure madness. This happens pretty much every night.
Let’s be honest it’s always something and the little squares on Instagram are typically the best moments and experiences. Why is that, why do we only share the good stuff? Why don’t we talk more about the trials and tribulations of parenthood? Aren’t we all struggling to stay afloat? So often I feel like I’m the only one experiencing these things, but when I finally talk to a few other Mama friends I realize we are ALL going through something, if not the same things!
My Tips For Keeping It Together
- Don’t be afraid to ask for help. I don’t do this one enough, but when I do I am so grateful. This is one that I have only recently been doing more of since moving back to Kansas City and now live closer to our families.
Find another friend and trade watching the kids one night a month. Use this time to go on a date with your spouse/significant other. Go to the movies, out to dinner, or whatever you and your partner loved doing before you had kids!
Make time for “Me Time”. This can be something you do every day or once a week, or once a month. For me, I get up a little early a couple times a week and enjoy my cup of coffee, while it’s fresh and hot. Sometimes I work and other times I watch a show. It could also be your workout time, or one of my favorites is shutting the bathroom door in the evenings and take a few minutes for my skin care routine.
Take a break from it all. Spend time to disconnect. Put away the phones and computers, turn the TV off, and spend some quality time with your family. It’s not about how long you disconnect, this is a personal preference, but mostly about the quality. Things we do are play outside, go to the park and have picnic dinner together in the living room.
Wouldn’t have it any other way
Being a mom is the most challenging job I have, but I love it and wouldn’t trade it for anything. There is nothing better than coming home from work and seeing my family on the front porch waving and waiting for me. Or when you pick them up from school and they come running at you and give the biggest hug ever. Mom life is hard, but SOO worth every single moment! These little babies are my heart and soul and I love them with every fiber of my being.
I’d love hear what challenges you’re facing, that way I and other Mama’s know we are not alone!
Thanks for stopping by and hope you have fantastic week!
I am always so inspired by other moms who are pursuing what they love to do, and that includes blogging. Thanks for sharing a glimpse of your life with us!
Jessica | notjessfashion.com
Not having kids of my own, I can only imagine there’s no job that compares to the one of being a mother and the struggles that come with it. I’m sure you’re a wonderful mother however and the tips you describe can be used for other areas in life as well, especially the me time part!
As someone who is going to start the process soon to be a parent, this is very helpful to read. Thank you for sharing such honest and helpful tips!
Simonetta Lein says
I am not a mom yet, I see my sister in law challenging between work and having a baby and a family and I admire her so much. She asks for help and she also has lots of patience and strength
Kallie I just love your honest take on motherhood in this blog post! It’s so true that the life in the squares is just a snippet – of the good days! There is so much more that goes in behind the scenes. And I agree about asking for help – I find that this helps me a lot. Just having that time to myself every now and again makes a big difference. I work part time as a medical scientist and have just started on my blogging journey about 3 months ago – and I agree – give me all the coffee hehe Thanks for sharing xxx
L Λ F O T K Λ (@LAFOTKA) says
Oh my goodness! My daughter is 11 and she’s still screaming when we have to do her hair! It’s poker straight and she doesn’t want it cut – so all the stress for 11 years! HELP 🙂 Love this post lovely – so glad you shared the reality!
Kamen Kamenov says
Oh my gosh… darling … how do u do it? I mean i do not have kids… but if u ask me… it is the most difficult… also satisfying job on the planet. U just have to keep it together. Loved ur post.
You’re like super mom! I can only imagine the things you go through – moms always have it the hardest. I’m so glad you’re still blogging though, because I love reading your stuff and I think it’s great you’re opening up about not being afraid to ask for help. It’s always okay to ask for help – being a mom is the hardest job in the world!
Being a mum sounds so rewarding and I can’t wait to one day be a mum is five or so years! Definitely important to make time for yourself no matter if you’re a mum or not. Always make time to work on yourself, and just relax!
The only challenge I’m facing is finding time each day to finish all my tasks! I always feel like there aren’t enough hours in the day and something always ends up going undone. You are a trooper for having a full time job and blogging full time, WITH kids. You are superwoman!
I’m honestly so impressed that you are able to full time blog, be a full time ICU nurse AND a mother. I struggle with just my blog and job without having any kids or family to take care of as well! Women like you are so inspiring and definitely push me to realize that anything is possible.