Do you ever just have those days where you wake up and just feel blaah?? Like you’re in a funk, and all you want to do is stay in your pajamas, lay on couch and catch up on all your shows. Buuut, you soon realize you have to get up, get yourself together, get your kids together and be parent.
Ugggh, now you have to be ON for the entire day. Ready to make meals, take them to and from school, go to sporting events, play with Barbies or cars, build with Magnatiles and be excited for All. Their. Things. Being a mom is hard and sometimes we simply just failed. Sometimes you get frustrated, even losing your temper. Sometimes you got it all together, but other day we just struggle.
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It’s tough you guys! When the pressure is on, or I’m over tired I find myself being short tempered. But, not only with myself or others, but with my kids too. PLEASE tell me I’m not alone in this.
I always have that moment of disbelief of myself when I raise my voice…or dare I say yell at my kids. I try to always keep my cool, but some days it’s just freaking hard.
So I started looking up ways to discipline your kids without yelling and found some interesting tips and tricks. I’ve been incorporating some of these slowly and have notice such a change in not only my kids behavior, but mine as well!
So I wanted to share some of these with you. I’m hoping the next time you’re having a rough day, feeling short tempered you can pull from one or all of these to help you get through it, without taking it out on anyone else…especially your kids.
5 Tips To Stop Losing Your Temper With Your Kids
- Say your request calmly, then walk away: when your child is crying, not listening or acting up, say what you’re wanting from him/her calmly. If their behavior is getting to you and you feel like you’re about to loose it…step away and gather your thoughts.
- Turn you words into something positive: instead of saying don’t do that, stop that you better, etc…try making it a positive statement. For example Say: I’ll serve lunch when you’re sitting quietly in your chair; Don’t Say “Stop whining! IF you want lunch you better be quiet.”
- Find prospective: challenge yourself and your thoughts on what is happening. Is this the worst thing that could happen, is there a pattern with what’s happening? Think about these thing before responding, and if you’re seeing a pattern, what’s causing it?
- Identify your triggers: being aware of your emotions is huge in being able to fix them. For me, when I’m tired or overwhelmed is when my fuse becomes short. I know I need to get a good night’s sleep, or ask for help.
- Ask for help: remind yourself it’s ok to ask for help! It’s taken me a long time to accept this one. But, Mama’s we can’t do this alone. It takes a village, don’t be afraid to use them!
Of course we’re not all perfect, and from time to time we’re going to slip. But, pulling from these tips and tricks can help keep those days from happening too often. Being a mom is about patients, understanding and empathy while they’re learning. But, remember to give these to yourself.
Be kind to yourself, be patient with your feelings, understand how you got there and give yourself a break every once in a while!
If you’ve been struggling with losing your temper, it’s ok. Know that you’re not alone. If you know other Mama’s who might be feeling this way then I’d love for you share this post with them.
You got this Mama…One day at a time is all it takes!