Why We Don't Focus On Telling Our Daughters They're Pretty

As parents we want to ensure we are teaching our kids the right things. Like confidence, self love and to believe in themselves. I once heard something on the radio that said parents shouldn’t put an emphases on telling their daughter’s they’re pretty, beautiful, etc. Instead to focus on attributes like they’re smart, creative, kind, etc.. I have to say I somewhat disagree with this statement. We’re focusing more than just telling our daughters they’re pretty

As a girl who often puts herself down, thinks she’s not pretty enough or skinny enough to be or do certain things, I don’t agree. I want my girls to know they are pretty, beautiful and they are enough. However, I always attach it with other attributes like being smart and kind.

How I Tell My Girls They’re Pretty

For example. Aria will come out of the playroom all dressed up in a miss-matched outfit and heels and ask how she looks. Of course I say she’s beautiful. But, I follow-up with something like “and I really love how you mixed colors and patterns for your look, that’s so creative.” Or when she does something for her sister to help her get dressed up I might say something like “You girls look so pretty, and I love how you were so kind to help your sissy get ready too!”

In this world we’re often judged on our looks. As old fashion as that sounds, it’s true. There’s this huge movement towards Self Love and Body Positivity, but this is inevitable, but first impressions are everything. I believe if you think you’re pretty, have self worth then the rest comes a long with it. I don’t think you should focus, or not focus, on any one thing. It’s important to foster all of the attributes to they have an overall feeling of self love for themselves.

Ultimately the old saying is true, you have to love yourself, all of yourself, first before anyone else can or for you to give love. This is what we’re focusing on.

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